4 Tips For Better Networking in Real Life

Here are some tips to help men and women find some power in their presentation. We(The Vitos) are all about networking… Whatever the purpose of an event is we encourage people to really step into a place of confidence when planning to connect with new people.

Perhaps what I have witnessed more often than not is that people exude charisma on social media more than they do in person. The anonymity of no one ever finding out about our weaknesses makes people think that they never have to practice shaking peoples hands and learning better ways of presenting themselves in person. Sadly the truth is no matter how well one sells themselves on-line the proof is in the actual conversation, eye contact and the handshake I say.

Reguardless of where you are with your networking confidence here are some tweeted tips about networking that our friend shared we have drawn inspiration from them and they should get you thinking.

https://twitter.com/B_Nanz/status/488679872198619136

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1) Our dear friend put it quaintly with this one. Why would you dress up to frown? As a lady your smile is your invitation to a conversation during a buzzing networking event. You could be out at a speed dating event, but if your smile is upside down or you decided to bring your stern face you are in the wrong place. Business or pleasure, rest assured even a married man will not be coming near you if you look like you ate a wasp! That being said just because hes not your cup of tea it doesn’t mean you should treat him mean because he just might know the man who could be right for you. Dont spoil it please! Network!

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2) With this one I must echo @b_nanz sentiment. Men who don’t approach a woman with confidence are likely to get a cold shoulder anyway. She is not smiling but you as a man should practice approaching smiling woman in a warm way that affirms her presence but does not bull doze for a response. Essentially every man when he sees a woman he must look for more than the shape to determine his next set of lines. Your approach can really determine acceptance or total rejection. Yes she will look at how you are dressed and consider your potential but your words can wash away the presumptions. Dont be thirsty to drink her she is not a bottle of CHRYSTAL or A CANNED DRINK. Speak to her like royalty not a pauper and if she doesn’t understand your sober approach then errrrm she was never Royal to begin with.

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3) My question with this one is what are you doing when everyone is watching but you don’t know they are. Poor conduct always encourages scrutiny of personal values and self respect. A woman who acts wild wont really be a prime candidate for a man looking for that woman with keys to his soul. CRAZY can pretend but eventually she will come out. But a peaceful de minor at an event can provoke curiosity and intrigue enough for your number to be requested. In retrospect RATCHET(Loud and Disorderly) usually is an attempt to compensate for not being recognised or feeling unhappy about something or someone else. Before you do permit me to challenge you by saying first impressions last longest. If shes loud we cant be together unless I’m looking for a nightmare.

https://twitter.com/MrVitoSpeaks/status/488335841904062464

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4) Meeting someone new does not mean you are now in line for LOVE! It just means you are capable of holding decent conversations and its been somewhat mirrored by the other person. What you do from this point is crucial. Your job now is to learn about this person. They should remain a friend until proven otherwise. For the man who is eager its easy to shoot oneself in the foot by immediately going for jugular vein questions like “So why are you single? When can I see you again? Why are you giving me an email address? All these questions sound “Desperate for Attention” where as “What are your hobbies? Whats the last movie you went to watch? Are your friends here with you? How can I keep in contact with you because I enjoyed this conversation?” Remember in all things dont let the desire for sexual contact overwhelm your reason for connecting with this person. Sure they are attractive but that should not be your excuse to pursue sex. Rather let sex remain unfulfilled and be that be a side note and not the leader to your conversations with him/her.

Sexual attraction is only skin deep but real beauty is commitment worthy -Mr Vito

Someone is asking how did we go from networking. to sex to marriage? This is because no matter what area of life one is dealing with or what life you may have as a single man or single woman. These are things secretly buzzing around your head in various orders and combinations. Some prioritise well and it keeps them happy and other prioritise poorly and it keeps them exactly where they are desperately trying to escape from.

Heres proof of what Im talking about in action.

@MrandMrVito with the help of Tweets from @B_nanz

KIWTV Updates – When Singles Meet Event #AfterMath

Hey guys, here we are experiencing the after burner of the great event #WhenSinglesMeet hosted by the Before I Do Radio Show! We were honoured to be there alongside speakers, performers and poets each with their own unique take on the on going conversation about Networking, Relationships and the all elusive question that many battle with.. “When Will I Find Love”.

When it came to our turn to share a little bit about how we got together it was important to note that we did not meet as a result of searching for love but mostly on the basis of fulfilling a service towards those who we believe in..Young People! At the time Lola needed a speaker for her sisters event and my friend was conscious of my desire to move forward in this area and knew I was pursuing speaking engagements to strengthen my confidence since letting go of what I would refer to as a relationship I should have avoided altogether had wisdom prevailed. The simple part of it is

fulfilling purpose leads to Love, the complicated part is that the state of your heart will either lead your love astray or keep you on the straight and narrow – Mr Vito

None the less our story and the engaging topics of the speakers and poets provided a firm foundation on which people can talk and socialise without the pressure of having to act but more the inspiration to engage with potential opportunities from Business to even Love interests.

Ironically it was after the speaking sessions that I found myself engaging with singles in all types of situations and I must confess that I had to practice my own advice that day

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Essentially both of us found ourselves speaking to amazing people who all desire to be recognised, loved, appreciated. We noticed that although events like this are labelled as fit for desperate people this one was not. It takes courage to meet and greet someone new and make the most of that conversation. We also got that personal satisfaction of knowing that what we were saying resonated with the hearts of many and that had there been more time and some more music to wash away the personal tension there probably would have been so much more networking.

Essentially our hats off to Soji Alayo and the Before I Do TEAM for putting minds and hearts together to fulfil purpose. Of course some people are wondering if anyone found “Love” that night. Im not 100 Percent sure about that but I can guarantee that some numbers were exchanged and some good men and women recognised. The fruit of which will be spoken of some day in another set of posts not to long from now.

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In conclusion any networking event you find yourself at reguardless of the type should be handled in a way you will feel proud of. We hope that this snippet has brought you somewhat closer to overcoming any barriers in meeting new people.

@MrandMrsVito

KIWTV “Real Love Looks Like Work 2 #AfterMath

Well as most of you may or may not know. On the 30th of June 2014 we had our 2nd “Real Love Looks Like Work Event”.

Firstly thank you to everyone who came out to connect with Us and make this night unforgettable. We would be lying if we said we didnt have fun, it was amazing! People came out and made their contributions known.

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Miss Bonsu started the proceedings that evening. For those of you looking for someone to host your event we encourage you to check her out on twitter @missbonsu.

The night was set alight by some key discussions affecting both men and women. Mrs Vito started the proceedings by addressing what she felt were key matters surrounding women who are preparing for love. She stressed wholeness and what encompassed it. Along with that the people shared their opinions on the subjects Mrs Vito put forward as a foundation. At our show everyone is welcome to share their thoughts as long as they contribute to the growth of people.

We also had that good food to eat and then Mr Vito spoke on the subject of manhood. He shared the on the critical state of manhood and what he felt were the missing things that make men lack confidence in approaching the opposite sex. He stressed that so long as men reject preparation in regards to manhood there would continually be single women stressing about availability of Ā eligible bachelors. He spoke on 5 pillars necessary for men to thrive and grow in the direction of doing what matters to themselves and generations to come.

Our Next Event will most certainly be in August and we are looking forward to seeing all of you there. We have plenty more to discuss. Make sure you bring someone this time. Its going to be amazing and we are looking forward to seeing you all there.

@MrandMrsVito

 

 

 

KIWTV – When Singles Meet(Events)

BEFORE I DO (Singles and Relationship Radio Show) will be having this great event in Barking and The Vito’s will be sitting on the panel to assist people with answers to pressing questions on the subject of Love and Relationships. The event is mainly centred around networking and developing that self confidence that allows you to be seen and heard by the right people. There will be loads of interactive activities as well as a screening of the World Cup final.

Attendance costs £20 via the link below
http://eventbrite.co.uk/event/12014988153

Sunday 13th July, 2014 @ BTN Banqueting Suite Essex.
NETWORKING, TALKS, Q&A, FOOD, DRINKS, COCKTAIL, SPOKEN WORD, SOLO PERFORMANCES, GAMES, MINGLE, WATCH WORLD CUP FINAL MATCH WITH NEW FRIENDS ON A BIG SCREEN. Don’t miss this FUN! Tickets are running out fast. For more information or call 07507658575 | 07930322194.

Its most certainly something you shouldn’t miss if you are interested in connecting with people on a different platform and having fun while you do so.

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SEE you there!

@MrandMrsVito

Relationship Notes: Divorce Is Not An Option

“COUPLES COULD PAY THE PRICE IN THE DIVORCE DEALS DUE TO CUTS IN LEGAL AID”

According to an article In the EVENING STANDARD

“LEGAL AID is now no longer available for most divorce cases due to spending cuts which see money restricted for a few high priority cases. It means divorcing wives and husbands face either a costly legal bill to pay for a lawyer or the daunting prospect of representing themselves for those without the funds”.

Lola and I believe that it takes a lot to get to the stage of divorce, simultaneously we also believe that in an age of mentors, information and timeless revelation….

A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions. The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences.” Proverbs

As avid encourager’s of togetherness Lola and I have constantly found that the state of marriage is often affected by the state of the minds of the Lovers involved and although we don’t want it to, the state of couples minds is often affected by the following factors.

MONEY PROBLEMS

CHILDREN’S DISCIPLINE

SEX & ITS FREQUENCY

TIME SPENT APART

HOUSEHOLD RESPONSIBILITIES

FRIENDS

IRRITATING HABITS

PERSONALITY CONFLICTS

INFIDELITY

FAMILY

EXPECTATIONS

Perhaps its as a result of all the above that we as people should strive for better handling of issues as when they arise and prevent what we can. That being said a worthwhile marriage is not built on shunting the things we are uncomfortable with under the carpet and then hoping the rats and mice will usher all our rubbish out. Lola and I find ourselves in situations as you would expect every married couple is supposed to, I think its not an enduring marriage if has not been tested with some kind of annoying afflictions that makes you feel like its a hopeless ship that should sink with the next wave. Remember the problems you are experiencing are REAL and neither should you suppress the feelings that come with them. The feelings serve as an indicator that there should be a change from within to encourage progress not a reason to part ways. Divorce seems like an easy way out, for those of you considering Co-Habitus Relationships, however LAWS will one day come into play where splitting with your partner may be like filing for divorce so don’t consider that as an easy way out.

Marriage is a RELATION-SHIP! A ship in which you should get over yourself as quickly as possible and learn to start RELATING on issues that keep the LOVE BOAT sailing to destiny before someone secretly gets thrown over board. Despite all the issues that come with marriage you find that most people want to find themselves walking down the aisle in style (SPENDING LIKE BOSSES) for the day and then crying a few months later. Perhaps the allure of marriage is the HONOUR that comes with it, and the ability to also work on these challenges in life with someone who cares about you. I mean when you’re hit hard by the issues mentioned as a single person, short of having a divine support system its very hard to maintain personal momentum and personal balance. Our greatest successes depend on stable relationships VISIBLE or INVISIBLE to the public eye.

Essentially permit me to encourage you that a more meaningful marriage or journey to it comes from facing your hiccups with yourself and the person or people you trust. Looking at the list above reminds Lola and I that we are still growing, some things we are yet to face but others we were facing before we consummated the marriage.

For those of you young and married seek the help you need to deal with your challenges. If youre going to overcome the issues above then let this list of donts encourage a unique perspective. Talk to your partner, be a partner not just by law but by active participation and contribution to solution.

-Don’t let marriage MUTE you!

-Don’t let PRIDE recruit you!

-Don’t let MONEY OR LACK OR EVEN THE LOVE of it divide you!

-Don’t let BAD FRIENDSHIPS RUIN you!

-Don’t let UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS fool you!

-Don’t let your FAMILIES rule you!

-Don’t let HOUSEHOLD RESPONSIBILITIES confuse you!

-Don’t Let IRRITATING HABITS consume you!

-Don’t let SEX, ITS FREQUENCY or its ABSENCE delude you!

-Don’t let CHILDREN’S DISCIPLINE be a civil war!

-Don’t let INFIDELITY be an option!

Some solutions to a lot of these problems don’t become clear until you have honestly overcome them, or you’re blessed enough to avoid them. May courage keep you strong as you overcome your challenges in similar ways in which we overcome ours daily.

The UK has gained a reputation as the divorce capital of the world because of the multi-million-pound settlements awarded to former partners. Sir Paul McCartney was required to pay Heather Mills £24.3m after four years of marriage. Beverley Charman, the former wife of John Charman, an insurance magnate, recently received £48m.

The Guardian

Choose well and you will live life happy! – Mr and Mrs Vito

Relationship Short Notes :- Friends With Benefits

kingvitospeaks's avatarMr Vito Speaks

When people hear the word friendship it is safe to assume they are talking about this…

Affection, sympathy, empathy, honesty, altruism, mutual understanding and compassion, enjoyment of each other’s company, trust, and the ability to be oneself, express one’s feelings, and make mistakes without fear of judgment from the friend.

It’s amazing how many people will cross this boundary to seek their personal sexual satisfaction. A man/woman can will peruse sexual benefits without any form of commitment most especially when they have no sense of purpose or self control. Be mindful of who you call ā€œfriendā€. If you have ever been in a ā€œFriends With Benefits Situationā€ you will know that it doesn’t take long before one of you starts to feel feelings beyond the purpose of the friendship. If you are the commitment type then you know this is not the best situation for you, in fact it’s just…

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Lifestyle Notes: Are You Drinking Too Much Workahol?

We trust that our thoughts find you dealing with your year in a smarter way and ultimately becoming better at what you do and even better at picking who you what you do with.

We are of the idea that one can and should work hard to achieve that which will bring fufilment. However in the process of seeking to attain achievements we should not become VICTIMS of our accomplishments. You hear the phrase spoken frequently in different working circles. #GRINDIN #HUSTLEHARD #GRAFTING #WORK #TEAMNOSLEEP #TEAMTOMORROWNEVERDIES #TEAMWEAREMACHINES.

No matter the vision one seeks to accomplish we know one thing is for sure every vision has a set time that might not always be in our control. Whether a corporate firm or a social enterprise whatever the vision we must apportion a time for REST and RECREATION, intentionally and pace our stability and personal growth in the process of pursuing our goals. Some people by reason of the amount of “WORK” they do dont even have to sign a contract to “sell their souls to the devil”. They sell their most vital energies instead. They pass on unhealthy ethos to their work colleagues, crazy signals to their families and even shunt their spouses in Favour of inanimate objects and the things those objects attract. Ironically this quote serves as direction for every person who understands that the condition of the Vision is as important as the condition of the visionary. Your Health and your wealth go hand in hand.

“Experts say the incessant work-related activity masks anxiety, low self-esteem, and intimacy problems. And as with addictions to alcohol, drugs or gambling, workaholics’ denial and destructive behavior will persist despite feedback from loved ones or danger signs such as deteriorating relationships. Poor health is another warning sign. Because there’s less of a social stigma attached to workaholism than to other addictions, health symptoms can easily go undiagnosed or unrecognized, say researchers.”

You know you are working too hard when you exhibit minor or fully blown signs of the following

– ANXIETY
– LOW SELF ESTEEM
-INTIMACY PROBLEMS

Why do you need to start having mental breakdowns before you decide to rest or find a spouse to share your life with. Why do you need to experience a stress related health defect before you realise “Perhaps the objects are not as important as the people around me”.

As the Vito’s we believe in both working smart and connecting with other people well. The right balance due to demands can sometimes be swayed one side to the other but rather than become victims of circumstances we are responsible for, it is just wiser to look ahead and plan our stability through the processes of life as well as the victory dance.

We encourage you to work smart every day and stay away from short cuts to your vision. Patiently strive to be an example of what it means to be a well thought out individual, couple, collective and organisation.

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If you are looking to potentially find better ways to balance yourself as a more wholesome individual, please feel free to purchase of our Book
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All Things Said With Love and Respect
Enquiries and Questions Can Be Sent To
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My Milkshake Brings all the Boys to the Yarrd!!….

fybconnection's avatarDear Mrs Vito

And then what?…

According to Kelis, ā€œmilkshakeā€ in the song is used as a metaphor for ā€œsomething that makes women specialā€ā€¦. others have said thatĀ the ā€œmilkshakeā€ stands for the woman’s sex appeal; It means she attracts all the guys in the area just by appearing there.

What ever ā€œMilkshakeā€ means to you (in this example/context) please make sure you seek to analyse it, and question if its right or ok to use it in such a way.

For example; Is your ā€œMilkshakeā€ your looks, a specific body part/asset, your intelligence?!?! etc….

I see too many girls, ladies, females etc using their ā€˜beauty’ to attract, however they fail to keep the guys attention for long periods of time. I don’t know about you, but i feel like my eyes are being bombarded with girls, women who refuse to keep their body parts to themselves.

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From walking the…

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