Closing The Deal With The Opposite Sex

Some people want that confidence to approach a woman and start a meaning conversation that could hopefully lead to a fulfilling companionship. We can as men imagine all that we want but the truth is our imaginations and visualisations mean nothing if we haven’t done anything about them. Its time to build the confidence to close the deal!

In this show we talked at length about how to make a move on the opposite sex and reducing the hesitation that comes up when we fear being rejected and the misconceptions that people have about starting a conversation with someone they like.

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Fighting Depression With Companionship

Have you ever wondered how relationships can help us build a stronger resistance against issues like Depression and Low self esteem? Well in this clip we discussed it! No one said life would be easy but we cannot and should never under estimate the power of companionship. It could make the difference in the dark days.

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A Woman’s Preparation Before Love

Do you want to find love that lasts and makes a difference to you and the people around. Every woman intent on this should take the time to prepare. HOW? we hear you ask. Well it starts with preparation of the heart. A lot of people prioritise physical attraction and there’s little wrong with it but its incomplete if thats where your prep ends. You can attract but can you keep and can you make it grow.

This Broadcast clip is taken from our Radio Show -Lets Talk About It and in the discussion was on preparing for love.

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The Good News Is – We Have A Radio Show!

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Ladies and Gentlemen, so sorry we have seemingly been quiet. #TeamVito has been busy trying to create some more things you can enjoy. Following on from our Real Love Looks Like Work Events… 7! to be precise a great opportunity opened up for us that we knew was right to take advantage of. An Organisation whom we had spoken at their events some 2 years back offered us the chance to host a radio show on their behalf. The organisation is called the OFNC. Aside from the honour we felt to represent them on radio it was proof that there is so much more work to do to help people find out more about how to grow and pace their relationships.

So having taken it on, our show is now on Thursdays @ 7pm on this link right here. http://www.reconcilersradio.net/ or you can access the show via the Tune Inn app just by searching for Reconcilers Radio when in doubt here is another link

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We are already 10 shows in and want you guys to be part of this growing journey with us. So we hope you tune in on Thursday Evenings.

 

 

The Secret Labours Of Love

Relationships still remain a touchy affair for a lot of people..Everyone wants to progress into the right one but they go for the wrong one and try to make it work out like the right ones do instead of doing the secret labours that those in the right ones do for them to work best in… Love is supposed to work but for all the right reasons and it will if a choice is made to push in the same agreed direction.

How I wish that it was simpler for people to find love and keep it going, but we are seeing this become more evident in the rocky relationships of our favourite celebrities and the sometimes seemingly none existent relationships our parents are in. There are things beneath the surface that a camera cannot capture or an instagram picture cannot capture, we may be able to record the physical whereabouts of our loved ones and stalk their social media accounts and even read their habits through their web searches but when it comes to the control of someone’s emotional energy and their internal choices no one can predict them. This indeed is where secret labours come into play.

Secret labours of Love go far beyond what we can touch and actually work on how to control how and what  we feel. When I’m in doubt about what I can see happening in my relationship I must put my pride aside no matter how difficult to resolve my doubts and that happens through going back to the purpose for which I’m with the woman I chose and literally linking the dots about the source of my internal conflicts. She too must learn to do her own secret labours and avoid compartmentalising her frustrations.   A secret labour is making choices like thinking right before you answer the woman you love. Secret labour is reading a book, going to a seminar, talking to level headed counsel about what makes women tick and using the things learned to decipher the complexity that is your woman. Secret labour is learning to say sorry for your embarrassing actions and resolving internally not to do it again as opposed to avoiding getting caught with your pants down. Secret labours are ensuring you have nothing incriminating on your phone and neither do you find yourself attracting or sticking around people who bring out that kind of thing in you. Secret labours are protecting your home by regularly communicating with your wife about your concerns and sweeping nothing under the carpet. Secret labours include actually forgiving your Spouse especially when you understand the reasons for their wrong doing. Secret labours are working on yourself regularly enough to see progress that you are proud of. Secret labours are accepting responsibility is not the worst thing in the world.

A whole host of things that people don’t do but yes they still expect their Love to work like clock work. If only they knew that SECRET LABOURS make all the difference and provide a unique perspective on the future of their relationship. I recently read somewhere that people spend more money trying to fix a disastrous relationship than they do preventing the disaster.

Use secret labours and make your relationship a fortified place of intimacy, personal discovery and motivation.

Come and learn more about Secret Labours that make the difference.

How to Handle Habitual Liars

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This one is for all the genuine people who are struggling with critical decisions about the lies they have been told and are being forced or coerced to live with.  With that being said let the sifting begin.

People who have lying tongues as a habit are dangerous to genuine people. When you see👀 or hear👂 lies confront them and address them with the truth. We don’t need to be rude when doing it just observant and careful not to do what is done to us. When confronting the person and in response they embellishes those lies with even more lies to cover their tracks then prepare your action plan and stop expecting the truth from such people.

Do you know the amount of futile thinking circles lies can make you do. Going around the same mountain of mindset again and again hoping to somehow come to the promise land(Peaceful Personal Conclusion) and enjoy the rewards of diligent thought. NO not with lies drugging your conclusions.

“You should also be bold enough to shamelessly cut liars loose from their commitment to you as their presence causes more anxiety and hidden confusion than actual safety”

Unfortunately whether it be a relationship with a new love or a business venture, or a new job that was sugar coated to gain our sympathy and commitment  we all seem to have this desire to turn the false outcome around and outsmart deception with our own version of events and reasoning. This is a recipe for self deception where we apply our lie to the lies we were told in order to maintain sanity and in many cases a falsely founded partnership. We can actually do better by accepting the truth about that partnership  before us and then seeking working solutions after disconnection from the lies.

“There are things we can stick around for but there are things we must shamelessly cut off.”

Few who have ever departed because of lies remain unhappy for very long. They become people who can decide what exactly works. Faithfulness to liars rarely benefits the faithful. Remember we are born creatures searching for the truth that will free us as opposed to the lies that will fleece us. Take your time and observe the consistency of the truth or the lie your partner in any venture upholds. When you know the quality of truth or the quality of lie. Make your next move swiftly.

“Remember the truth makes a man strong enough to remain free but the lie makes a man weak enough to stay and believe in what will not change even with false hope. ” – Mr Vito Speaks

With that said we hope this will help you deal effectively with habitual liars most especially when important decisions rely on truth and honesty.

Kind Regards

Mr & Mrs Vito

4 Precautions To Help You Fufil Purpose

We all have some sort of desire to live a fuller life, make better connections and strengthen the purpose for which we are living. The greatest challenge for most people is not doing their best when people are looking but its usually when people are not looking.

For men this is especially difficult because the habits we form in secret have a way of disarming even our public confidence. Porn, Anger, Suicide, Depression, Frustration, Helplessness, Laziness, even disadvantage…. all of these require courage to over come and stay out of.

When a man has not explored his potential he is vulnerable to discouragement and all these previously mentioned elements are ignited by a sense of inadequacy. In fact feeling like you are not good enough to do anything is worse when you’re alone. In isolation a man can think himself into a slumber or stubborness as the absence of courage leaves his personality crippled and voiceless.

I need you to know that courage to fulfil purpose is not easily found and as men we should learn to appreciate courage when it comes from somewhere other than our depressed self. There are multiple ways in which encouragement can come and its important to be open and connect with people who have the courage we yearn for. In the process one must understand that encouragement to someone who is in a slump can be frustration. It can foster dishonour and a deep lack of appreciation. Courage is a tough commodity to secure so when it seemingly comes for free we must give attention to it.

Here are few habits one would to adjust in order to respond well when Courage comes.

1) Beware of Flattery: Flattery can easily be mistaken for encouragement because it creates a false sense of security that is founded on foggy agenda. Flattery is the short cut to achieving rapport with someone but it is not what sustains it. Real encouragement comes with correction and a new level of discipline to reset bad ideas. Flattery makes you feel good for the moment but it does not produce sustainable returns. Encouragement is more long term it ushers the receiver onto a path of discovery and personal change. Encouragement challenges the state of a man and suggests that he is more than he has settled for.

2) Beware of Lies: Lies can fabricate entirely different situations in the state of a discouraged person. They can create internal division in a mans mind about his conviction and they confuse his course of action. When a man is told lies or is in the habit of telling them, this in effect causes an unstable mindset which in effect cannot succeed in fulfilling purpose. Fulfilling purpose at the cost of integrity is not fulfilling purpose at all, its actually compromising oneself and in doing so exposes the individual to discontentment.

3) Beware of Wilful blindness: In my line of work I constantly have to challenge negative mindsets and I find myself having to discourage some forms of behaviour and encourage others. What is unfortunate is that some times people protect their bad habits and disconnect themselves from affirmation for the sake of temporary joys. What they dont know is that they are nursing disadvantage. Inevitably these people end up hating good instruction because their temporary joy has created a monster they cannot overcome. Pride has stepped in to crown their disadvantage. Short of humility a wilfully blind person will persist on that path and it is very difficult to call them back unless they are willing to lay it all out.

4) Beware of Pride: Pride is personal, and when its not put on a leash or left unattended, it can be the root of all self deception. Pride creates a terrible self dependance that does not create a discerning well positioned individual.
Some people because of pride have abandoned courage and stood with the coward beneath. Pride suppresses speaking out of any kind that mobilises change. A lot of people want to change their ways but refuse to put pride aside because it hurts too much. Pride is a self defence technique for low self esteem.