Real Love Looks Like Work – Love & Purpose

Hey Guys!!

Happy New Year to you all, we trust that this entry finds you all happy at the start of what promises to both be a great and interesting new year. We also hope that you have set your goals and are already in motion to figure out how  you can maximise of being effective towards your dreams. Someone reading this could be dreaming about the Man or Woman they are going to meet who will inevitably change their life for the better. Not that we depend on the person coming to be our all in all  but that we love ourselves enough to become dependable for the person who is coming. What about your pupose though surely without purpose there is no point to a relationship… WRONG!! Purpose will determine the kind of a relationships you allow to entertain. However the quality of your chosen relationship will determine how consistently you attend to your purpose.

So seeing as this is a mixed bag of tricks full of twists and turns #TeamVito has put together a workshop/seminar/conversation with those two underlying themes, Love & Purpose. Regardless of which one has come first for you whether Love or Purpose, you dont need to choose between one or the other but you must know that that the two affect each other in more ways than one. Come along and find out how you can walk these two down the route of fufilment.

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£8 when you arrive with proof of early bird registration.. thats a £2 discount! Otherwise £10 at the door.

We are so looking forward to seeing you all and having a good time talking and walking this path together for a few hours.

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See you guys soon!!

 

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KIWTV – Real Love Looks Like Work 6

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Hey guys so this happened the other day! #TeamVito would like to thank all those who came down to our KIWTV Event – Real Love Looks Like Work 6

The event was themed “The Love Life Of An Entrepreneur”.  We are so greatful for the attendance and the amazing contributions that were made by our panelists. For those who were there we hope that experience has put a hop in your next steps and helped you to shape more seriously the kind of relationship you are planning to go into or the one you’re in. All subjects covered on the night although not exhaustive are covered to provoke you to thought and practical action that will lead to good results in Love and Business.  We remain greatful again for the support and the  Love shown to us and you can bet that our next event will compliment all that we have done so far.

If you would like to see some topics thrown into the mix for out next event feel free to email us on Mrandmrsvito@gmail.com and will get back to you with our thoughts.  Thanks again to you all.

Remember

Real Love Looks Like Work!

Kind regards

Mr & Mrs Vito

4 Precautions To Help You Fufil Purpose

We all have some sort of desire to live a fuller life, make better connections and strengthen the purpose for which we are living. The greatest challenge for most people is not doing their best when people are looking but its usually when people are not looking.

For men this is especially difficult because the habits we form in secret have a way of disarming even our public confidence. Porn, Anger, Suicide, Depression, Frustration, Helplessness, Laziness, even disadvantage…. all of these require courage to over come and stay out of.

When a man has not explored his potential he is vulnerable to discouragement and all these previously mentioned elements are ignited by a sense of inadequacy. In fact feeling like you are not good enough to do anything is worse when you’re alone. In isolation a man can think himself into a slumber or stubborness as the absence of courage leaves his personality crippled and voiceless.

I need you to know that courage to fulfil purpose is not easily found and as men we should learn to appreciate courage when it comes from somewhere other than our depressed self. There are multiple ways in which encouragement can come and its important to be open and connect with people who have the courage we yearn for. In the process one must understand that encouragement to someone who is in a slump can be frustration. It can foster dishonour and a deep lack of appreciation. Courage is a tough commodity to secure so when it seemingly comes for free we must give attention to it.

Here are few habits one would to adjust in order to respond well when Courage comes.

1) Beware of Flattery: Flattery can easily be mistaken for encouragement because it creates a false sense of security that is founded on foggy agenda. Flattery is the short cut to achieving rapport with someone but it is not what sustains it. Real encouragement comes with correction and a new level of discipline to reset bad ideas. Flattery makes you feel good for the moment but it does not produce sustainable returns. Encouragement is more long term it ushers the receiver onto a path of discovery and personal change. Encouragement challenges the state of a man and suggests that he is more than he has settled for.

2) Beware of Lies: Lies can fabricate entirely different situations in the state of a discouraged person. They can create internal division in a mans mind about his conviction and they confuse his course of action. When a man is told lies or is in the habit of telling them, this in effect causes an unstable mindset which in effect cannot succeed in fulfilling purpose. Fulfilling purpose at the cost of integrity is not fulfilling purpose at all, its actually compromising oneself and in doing so exposes the individual to discontentment.

3) Beware of Wilful blindness: In my line of work I constantly have to challenge negative mindsets and I find myself having to discourage some forms of behaviour and encourage others. What is unfortunate is that some times people protect their bad habits and disconnect themselves from affirmation for the sake of temporary joys. What they dont know is that they are nursing disadvantage. Inevitably these people end up hating good instruction because their temporary joy has created a monster they cannot overcome. Pride has stepped in to crown their disadvantage. Short of humility a wilfully blind person will persist on that path and it is very difficult to call them back unless they are willing to lay it all out.

4) Beware of Pride: Pride is personal, and when its not put on a leash or left unattended, it can be the root of all self deception. Pride creates a terrible self dependance that does not create a discerning well positioned individual.
Some people because of pride have abandoned courage and stood with the coward beneath. Pride suppresses speaking out of any kind that mobilises change. A lot of people want to change their ways but refuse to put pride aside because it hurts too much. Pride is a self defence technique for low self esteem.

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If you are based in London, then its your lucky day. You are invited to participate in our interactive event discussing Dating, Potentials & Relationships. 

Hosted by the lovely Miss Bonsu

7pm start

At Cafe 178, New Cross Gate, SE14 5AA

£5 Tickets can be bought on the door

Looking forward to seeing you!

#educational #relationships #learning #love #men #women #single #married #dating #growth #development

4 Tips For Better Networking in Real Life

Here are some tips to help men and women find some power in their presentation. We(The Vitos) are all about networking… Whatever the purpose of an event is we encourage people to really step into a place of confidence when planning to connect with new people.

Perhaps what I have witnessed more often than not is that people exude charisma on social media more than they do in person. The anonymity of no one ever finding out about our weaknesses makes people think that they never have to practice shaking peoples hands and learning better ways of presenting themselves in person. Sadly the truth is no matter how well one sells themselves on-line the proof is in the actual conversation, eye contact and the handshake I say.

Reguardless of where you are with your networking confidence here are some tweeted tips about networking that our friend shared we have drawn inspiration from them and they should get you thinking.

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1) Our dear friend put it quaintly with this one. Why would you dress up to frown? As a lady your smile is your invitation to a conversation during a buzzing networking event. You could be out at a speed dating event, but if your smile is upside down or you decided to bring your stern face you are in the wrong place. Business or pleasure, rest assured even a married man will not be coming near you if you look like you ate a wasp! That being said just because hes not your cup of tea it doesn’t mean you should treat him mean because he just might know the man who could be right for you. Dont spoil it please! Network!

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2) With this one I must echo @b_nanz sentiment. Men who don’t approach a woman with confidence are likely to get a cold shoulder anyway. She is not smiling but you as a man should practice approaching smiling woman in a warm way that affirms her presence but does not bull doze for a response. Essentially every man when he sees a woman he must look for more than the shape to determine his next set of lines. Your approach can really determine acceptance or total rejection. Yes she will look at how you are dressed and consider your potential but your words can wash away the presumptions. Dont be thirsty to drink her she is not a bottle of CHRYSTAL or A CANNED DRINK. Speak to her like royalty not a pauper and if she doesn’t understand your sober approach then errrrm she was never Royal to begin with.

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3) My question with this one is what are you doing when everyone is watching but you don’t know they are. Poor conduct always encourages scrutiny of personal values and self respect. A woman who acts wild wont really be a prime candidate for a man looking for that woman with keys to his soul. CRAZY can pretend but eventually she will come out. But a peaceful de minor at an event can provoke curiosity and intrigue enough for your number to be requested. In retrospect RATCHET(Loud and Disorderly) usually is an attempt to compensate for not being recognised or feeling unhappy about something or someone else. Before you do permit me to challenge you by saying first impressions last longest. If shes loud we cant be together unless I’m looking for a nightmare.

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4) Meeting someone new does not mean you are now in line for LOVE! It just means you are capable of holding decent conversations and its been somewhat mirrored by the other person. What you do from this point is crucial. Your job now is to learn about this person. They should remain a friend until proven otherwise. For the man who is eager its easy to shoot oneself in the foot by immediately going for jugular vein questions like “So why are you single? When can I see you again? Why are you giving me an email address? All these questions sound “Desperate for Attention” where as “What are your hobbies? Whats the last movie you went to watch? Are your friends here with you? How can I keep in contact with you because I enjoyed this conversation?” Remember in all things dont let the desire for sexual contact overwhelm your reason for connecting with this person. Sure they are attractive but that should not be your excuse to pursue sex. Rather let sex remain unfulfilled and be that be a side note and not the leader to your conversations with him/her.

Sexual attraction is only skin deep but real beauty is commitment worthy -Mr Vito

Someone is asking how did we go from networking. to sex to marriage? This is because no matter what area of life one is dealing with or what life you may have as a single man or single woman. These are things secretly buzzing around your head in various orders and combinations. Some prioritise well and it keeps them happy and other prioritise poorly and it keeps them exactly where they are desperately trying to escape from.

Heres proof of what Im talking about in action.

@MrandMrVito with the help of Tweets from @B_nanz

KIWTV Updates – When Singles Meet Event #AfterMath

Hey guys, here we are experiencing the after burner of the great event #WhenSinglesMeet hosted by the Before I Do Radio Show! We were honoured to be there alongside speakers, performers and poets each with their own unique take on the on going conversation about Networking, Relationships and the all elusive question that many battle with.. “When Will I Find Love”.

When it came to our turn to share a little bit about how we got together it was important to note that we did not meet as a result of searching for love but mostly on the basis of fulfilling a service towards those who we believe in..Young People! At the time Lola needed a speaker for her sisters event and my friend was conscious of my desire to move forward in this area and knew I was pursuing speaking engagements to strengthen my confidence since letting go of what I would refer to as a relationship I should have avoided altogether had wisdom prevailed. The simple part of it is

fulfilling purpose leads to Love, the complicated part is that the state of your heart will either lead your love astray or keep you on the straight and narrow – Mr Vito

None the less our story and the engaging topics of the speakers and poets provided a firm foundation on which people can talk and socialise without the pressure of having to act but more the inspiration to engage with potential opportunities from Business to even Love interests.

Ironically it was after the speaking sessions that I found myself engaging with singles in all types of situations and I must confess that I had to practice my own advice that day

Essentially both of us found ourselves speaking to amazing people who all desire to be recognised, loved, appreciated. We noticed that although events like this are labelled as fit for desperate people this one was not. It takes courage to meet and greet someone new and make the most of that conversation. We also got that personal satisfaction of knowing that what we were saying resonated with the hearts of many and that had there been more time and some more music to wash away the personal tension there probably would have been so much more networking.

Essentially our hats off to Soji Alayo and the Before I Do TEAM for putting minds and hearts together to fulfil purpose. Of course some people are wondering if anyone found “Love” that night. Im not 100 Percent sure about that but I can guarantee that some numbers were exchanged and some good men and women recognised. The fruit of which will be spoken of some day in another set of posts not to long from now.

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In conclusion any networking event you find yourself at reguardless of the type should be handled in a way you will feel proud of. We hope that this snippet has brought you somewhat closer to overcoming any barriers in meeting new people.

@MrandMrsVito

KIWTV “Real Love Looks Like Work 2 #AfterMath

Well as most of you may or may not know. On the 30th of June 2014 we had our 2nd “Real Love Looks Like Work Event”.

Firstly thank you to everyone who came out to connect with Us and make this night unforgettable. We would be lying if we said we didnt have fun, it was amazing! People came out and made their contributions known.

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Miss Bonsu started the proceedings that evening. For those of you looking for someone to host your event we encourage you to check her out on twitter @missbonsu.

The night was set alight by some key discussions affecting both men and women. Mrs Vito started the proceedings by addressing what she felt were key matters surrounding women who are preparing for love. She stressed wholeness and what encompassed it. Along with that the people shared their opinions on the subjects Mrs Vito put forward as a foundation. At our show everyone is welcome to share their thoughts as long as they contribute to the growth of people.

We also had that good food to eat and then Mr Vito spoke on the subject of manhood. He shared the on the critical state of manhood and what he felt were the missing things that make men lack confidence in approaching the opposite sex. He stressed that so long as men reject preparation in regards to manhood there would continually be single women stressing about availability of  eligible bachelors. He spoke on 5 pillars necessary for men to thrive and grow in the direction of doing what matters to themselves and generations to come.

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Our Next Event will most certainly be in August and we are looking forward to seeing all of you there. We have plenty more to discuss. Make sure you bring someone this time. Its going to be amazing and we are looking forward to seeing you all there.

@MrandMrsVito