Questions To Know When Dating 5 covers the process of digging Deeper into the Character of the person and checking if investing in the person is worth a life time or a cup of coffee. Questions can make the difference between wasting time, money, effort, affection and keeping safe.
Mr and Mrs Vito had a special talk on the subject of Sex on the first date. Its time we tried talking from a different perspective. We always ask women to put a value on it but when will men put a value on it. Probably never but commendations to those who try.
Research examining how sexual timing is associated with relationship satisfaction, stability, and communication has found waiting to become intimate had a higher correlation with more favourable long-term relationship outcomes.
Here are some tips to help men and women find some power in their presentation. We(The Vitos) are all about networking… Whatever the purpose of an event is we encourage people to really step into a place of confidence when planning to connect with new people.
Perhaps what I have witnessed more often than not is that people exude charisma on social media more than they do in person. The anonymity of no one ever finding out about our weaknesses makes people think that they never have to practice shaking peoples hands and learning better ways of presenting themselves in person. Sadly the truth is no matter how well one sells themselves on-line the proof is in the actual conversation, eye contact and the handshake I say.
Reguardless of where you are with your networking confidence here are some tweeted tips about networking that our friend shared we have drawn inspiration from them and they should get you thinking.
1) Our dear friend put it quaintly with this one. Why would you dress up to frown? As a lady your smile is your invitation to a conversation during a buzzing networking event. You could be out at a speed dating event, but if your smile is upside down or you decided to bring your stern face you are in the wrong place. Business or pleasure, rest assured even a married man will not be coming near you if you look like you ate a wasp! That being said just because hes not your cup of tea it doesn’t mean you should treat him mean because he just might know the man who could be right for you. Dont spoil it please! Network!
Guys, approach with courage, ask questions; a good conversation just MIGHT be the key to getting that number. #whensinglesmeet
2) With this one I must echo @b_nanz sentiment. Men who don’t approach a woman with confidence are likely to get a cold shoulder anyway. She is not smiling but you as a man should practice approaching smiling woman in a warm way that affirms her presence but does not bull doze for a response. Essentially every man when he sees a woman he must look for more than the shape to determine his next set of lines. Your approach can really determine acceptance or total rejection. Yes she will look at how you are dressed and consider your potential but your words can wash away the presumptions. Dont be thirsty to drink her she is not a bottle of CHRYSTAL or A CANNED DRINK. Speak to her like royalty not a pauper and if she doesn’t understand your sober approach then errrrm she was never Royal to begin with.
Ladies, conduct is key! Remember you are being observed (& admired) 😉 Be sociable but not loud, polite not rude/ratchet! #whensinglesmeet
3) My question with this one is what are you doing when everyone is watching but you don’t know they are. Poor conduct always encourages scrutiny of personal values and self respect. A woman who acts wild wont really be a prime candidate for a man looking for that woman with keys to his soul. CRAZY can pretend but eventually she will come out. But a peaceful de minor at an event can provoke curiosity and intrigue enough for your number to be requested. In retrospect RATCHET(Loud and Disorderly) usually is an attempt to compensate for not being recognised or feeling unhappy about something or someone else. Before you do permit me to challenge you by saying first impressions last longest. If shes loud we cant be together unless I’m looking for a nightmare.
New friend does not mean new romantic relationship! It may mean friend of your future Fiance. Let time reveal the purpose #whensinglesmeet.
4) Meeting someone new does not mean you are now in line for LOVE! It just means you are capable of holding decent conversations and its been somewhat mirrored by the other person. What you do from this point is crucial. Your job now is to learn about this person. They should remain a friend until proven otherwise. For the man who is eager its easy to shoot oneself in the foot by immediately going for jugular vein questions like “So why are you single? When can I see you again? Why are you giving me an email address? All these questions sound “Desperate for Attention” where as “What are your hobbies? Whats the last movie you went to watch? Are your friends here with you? How can I keep in contact with you because I enjoyed this conversation?” Remember in all things dont let the desire for sexual contact overwhelm your reason for connecting with this person. Sure they are attractive but that should not be your excuse to pursue sex. Rather let sex remain unfulfilled and be that be a side note and not the leader to your conversations with him/her.
Sexual attraction is only skin deep but real beauty is commitment worthy -Mr Vito
Someone is asking how did we go from networking. to sex to marriage? This is because no matter what area of life one is dealing with or what life you may have as a single man or single woman. These are things secretly buzzing around your head in various orders and combinations. Some prioritise well and it keeps them happy and other prioritise poorly and it keeps them exactly where they are desperately trying to escape from.
Hey guys, here we are experiencing the after burner of the great event #WhenSinglesMeet hosted by the Before I Do Radio Show! We were honoured to be there alongside speakers, performers and poets each with their own unique take on the on going conversation about Networking, Relationships and the all elusive question that many battle with.. “When Will I Find Love”.
When it came to our turn to share a little bit about how we got together it was important to note that we did not meet as a result of searching for love but mostly on the basis of fulfilling a service towards those who we believe in..Young People! At the time Lola needed a speaker for her sisters event and my friend was conscious of my desire to move forward in this area and knew I was pursuing speaking engagements to strengthen my confidence since letting go of what I would refer to as a relationship I should have avoided altogether had wisdom prevailed. The simple part of it is
fulfilling purpose leads to Love, the complicated part is that the state of your heart will either lead your love astray or keep you on the straight and narrow – Mr Vito
None the less our story and the engaging topics of the speakers and poets provided a firm foundation on which people can talk and socialise without the pressure of having to act but more the inspiration to engage with potential opportunities from Business to even Love interests.
Ironically it was after the speaking sessions that I found myself engaging with singles in all types of situations and I must confess that I had to practice my own advice that day
Whenever you are going to a place to meet new ppl you nd to have an open mind when you speak 2 ppl who dont sound like you #whensinglesmeet
Essentially both of us found ourselves speaking to amazing people who all desire to be recognised, loved, appreciated. We noticed that although events like this are labelled as fit for desperate people this one was not. It takes courage to meet and greet someone new and make the most of that conversation. We also got that personal satisfaction of knowing that what we were saying resonated with the hearts of many and that had there been more time and some more music to wash away the personal tension there probably would have been so much more networking.
Essentially our hats off to Soji Alayo and the Before I Do TEAM for putting minds and hearts together to fulfil purpose. Of course some people are wondering if anyone found “Love” that night. Im not 100 Percent sure about that but I can guarantee that some numbers were exchanged and some good men and women recognised. The fruit of which will be spoken of some day in another set of posts not to long from now.
When you meet the opposite sex tonight, avoid talking about the burden of your singleness. Talk about you and what you do. #WhenSinglesMeet
In conclusion any networking event you find yourself at reguardless of the type should be handled in a way you will feel proud of. We hope that this snippet has brought you somewhat closer to overcoming any barriers in meeting new people.