So you want to start dating or are already in the process of dating and would like some questions to ask as part of your banter with your love interest. Not only that but you want to get to the core of the person you are dealing with. Its only right to ask strategic questions that reveal what needs to be known before you commit.
In this show we focused on the Basics About A Persons Faith & Their Lifestyle
Friends are best chosen with careful thought. We all talk about being the average of the top 5 people we associate with the most, so how do we get to choosing the the proper friends that align with our destiny. The kind of friends that are healthy for our relationships with the opposite sex. Its all very deep stuff. In this particular broadcast we gave it an honest outlook and more interesting is the views that our listeners shared with us.
Make sure you listen closely as the principles shared are necessary for growth.
Some people want that confidence to approach a woman and start a meaning conversation that could hopefully lead to a fulfilling companionship. We can as men imagine all that we want but the truth is our imaginations and visualisations mean nothing if we haven’t done anything about them. Its time to build the confidence to close the deal!
In this show we talked at length about how to make a move on the opposite sex and reducing the hesitation that comes up when we fear being rejected and the misconceptions that people have about starting a conversation with someone they like.
Have you ever wondered how relationships can help us build a stronger resistance against issues like Depression and Low self esteem? Well in this clip we discussed it! No one said life would be easy but we cannot and should never under estimate the power of companionship. It could make the difference in the dark days.
Do you want to find love that lasts and makes a difference to you and the people around. Every woman intent on this should take the time to prepare. HOW? we hear you ask. Well it starts with preparation of the heart. A lot of people prioritise physical attraction and there’s little wrong with it but its incomplete if thats where your prep ends. You can attract but can you keep and can you make it grow.
This Broadcast clip is taken from our Radio Show -Lets Talk About It and in the discussion was on preparing for love.
Ladies and Gentlemen, so sorry we have seemingly been quiet. #TeamVito has been busy trying to create some more things you can enjoy. Following on from our Real Love Looks Like Work Events… 7! to be precise a great opportunity opened up for us that we knew was right to take advantage of. An Organisation whom we had spoken at their events some 2 years back offered us the chance to host a radio show on their behalf. The organisation is called the OFNC. Aside from the honour we felt to represent them on radio it was proof that there is so much more work to do to help people find out more about how to grow and pace their relationships.
So having taken it on, our show is now on Thursdays @ 7pm on this link right here. http://www.reconcilersradio.net/ or you can access the show via the Tune Inn app just by searching for Reconcilers Radio when in doubt here is another link
Now beyond this we want you to join us during our discussions by giving us a call or getting involved on our social media.
Relationships still remain a touchy affair for a lot of people..Everyone wants to progress into the right one but they go for the wrong one and try to make it work out like the right ones do instead of doing the secret labours that those in the right ones do for them to work best in… Love is supposed to work but for all the right reasons and it will if a choice is made to push in the same agreed direction.
How I wish that it was simpler for people to find love and keep it going, but we are seeing this become more evident in the rocky relationships of our favourite celebrities and the sometimes seemingly none existent relationships our parents are in. There are things beneath the surface that a camera cannot capture or an instagram picture cannot capture, we may be able to record the physical whereabouts of our loved ones and stalk their social media accounts and even read their habits through their web searches but when it comes to the control of someone’s emotional energy and their internal choices no one can predict them. This indeed is where secret labours come into play.
Secret labours of Love go far beyond what we can touch and actually work on how to control how and what we feel. When I’m in doubt about what I can see happening in my relationship I must put my pride aside no matter how difficult to resolve my doubts and that happens through going back to the purpose for which I’m with the woman I chose and literally linking the dots about the source of my internal conflicts. She too must learn to do her own secret labours and avoid compartmentalising her frustrations. A secret labour is making choices like thinking right before you answer the woman you love. Secret labour is reading a book, going to a seminar, talking to level headed counsel about what makes women tick and using the things learned to decipher the complexity that is your woman. Secret labour is learning to say sorry for your embarrassing actions and resolving internally not to do it again as opposed to avoiding getting caught with your pants down. Secret labours are ensuring you have nothing incriminating on your phone and neither do you find yourself attracting or sticking around people who bring out that kind of thing in you. Secret labours are protecting your home by regularly communicating with your wife about your concerns and sweeping nothing under the carpet. Secret labours include actually forgiving your Spouse especially when you understand the reasons for their wrong doing. Secret labours are working on yourself regularly enough to see progress that you are proud of. Secret labours are accepting responsibility is not the worst thing in the world.
A whole host of things that people don’t do but yes they still expect their Love to work like clock work. If only they knew that SECRET LABOURS make all the difference and provide a unique perspective on the future of their relationship. I recently read somewhere that people spend more money trying to fix a disastrous relationship than they do preventing the disaster.
Use secret labours and make your relationship a fortified place of intimacy, personal discovery and motivation.
Come and learn more about Secret Labours that make the difference.
This one is for all the genuine people who are struggling with critical decisions about the lies they have been told and are being forced or coerced to live with. With that being said let the sifting begin.
People who have lying tongues as a habit are dangerous to genuine people. When you see👀 or hear👂 lies confront them and address them with the truth. We don’t need to be rude when doing it just observant and careful not to do what is done to us. When confronting the person and in response they embellishes those lies with even more lies to cover their tracks then prepare your action plan and stop expecting the truth from such people.
Do you know the amount of futile thinking circles lies can make you do. Going around the same mountain of mindset again and again hoping to somehow come to the promise land(Peaceful Personal Conclusion) and enjoy the rewards of diligent thought. NO not with lies drugging your conclusions.
“You should also be bold enough to shamelessly cut liars loose from their commitment to you as their presence causes more anxiety and hidden confusion than actual safety”
Unfortunately whether it be a relationship with a new love or a business venture, or a new job that was sugar coated to gain our sympathy and commitment we all seem to have this desire to turn the false outcome around and outsmart deception with our own version of events and reasoning. This is a recipe for self deception where we apply our lie to the lies we were told in order to maintain sanity and in many cases a falsely founded partnership. We can actually do better by accepting the truth about that partnership before us and then seeking working solutions after disconnection from the lies.
“There are things we can stick around for but there are things we must shamelessly cut off.”
Few who have ever departed because of lies remain unhappy for very long. They become people who can decide what exactly works. Faithfulness to liars rarely benefits the faithful. Remember we are born creatures searching for the truth that will free us as opposed to the lies that will fleece us. Take your time and observe the consistency of the truth or the lie your partner in any venture upholds. When you know the quality of truth or the quality of lie. Make your next move swiftly.
“Remember the truth makes a man strong enough to remain free but the lie makes a man weak enough to stay and believe in what will not change even with false hope. ” – Mr Vito Speaks
With that said we hope this will help you deal effectively with habitual liars most especially when important decisions rely on truth and honesty.
Hey guys so this happened the other day! #TeamVito would like to thank all those who came down to our KIWTV Event – Real Love Looks Like Work 6
The event was themed “The Love Life Of An Entrepreneur”. We are so greatful for the attendance and the amazing contributions that were made by our panelists. For those who were there we hope that experience has put a hop in your next steps and helped you to shape more seriously the kind of relationship you are planning to go into or the one you’re in. All subjects covered on the night although not exhaustive are covered to provoke you to thought and practical action that will lead to good results in Love and Business. We remain greatful again for the support and the Love shown to us and you can bet that our next event will compliment all that we have done so far.
If you would like to see some topics thrown into the mix for out next event feel free to email us on Mrandmrsvito@gmail.com and will get back to you with our thoughts. Thanks again to you all.
Today’s good man is a rare elusive sight for most eligible and ready to marry women with their heads screwed on. Its clear there is some epidemic damaging availability and visibility.
Its also clear that many good women are interested in finding or being found by the right type of guys. In honour of this desire we have put together these 3 reasons to provoke some soul searching.
1) Women swoon over men who are not prepared to date: Some times ladies in their desire to connect with men often find themselves desiring a man who just isn’t ready. Some ladies even take offence at the man’s lack of readiness but their internal persistence pushes for a connection because of fear of missing out on “someone good”. They put their attention towards a man who looks like, even acts like but really isn’t prepared to be the right one for her. Constantly the woman is then forced to confront this lack of readiness and is more than likely to interpret it as rejection meanwhile the man’s lack of readiness is really fuelling her ailing insecurities. The truth is her focus should be on men who are ready to date. Unfortunately on the flip side the ones who are ready to date have their own hurdles to jump because they never present, Confident, Mature or Decisivelong enough for her attention to be aroused. Until men come out the rubble of societies stereotypes and establish an identity that is based on personally enriched value systems and a follow through of those values then the rubble will on be piled on more and more until even the best of good men is invisible.
2) Using your friends “Seemingly Good Relationship” as an excuse to look for and date just any man. Many people claim to have particular tastes when it comes to the type of people to date but few of them know what they are really like when peer pressure pushes them. There is a tendency to crumble under pressure when their friend meets someone new and so to avoid dealing with envy, self imposed shame and discomfort they create space for a man who shouldnt be in their lives. Straight away to the quiet eligible bachelor her choice shows she is incapable of choosing well. At the end of the day you need to be aware that Peer Pressure can drive you to envy. Your friends choice of man no matter who, should drive you to learn how to choose well. When a friend is in a situation that provokes envy in you, it is important to work out the real reason for those feelings. If your friend has truly met a man who is one of a kind and you respect her opinion then surely you should look at what was happening before she met the man. Was she doing things you admire or things you despise. Your envy should not be “why does she have and I do not”. Become a student of how good choices are made and you will cultivate a humility your future husband will thank you for. “How did she get to be with who she is with?” That question will position you as a student on the path of learning.
3) The good guys are stuck in your friend zone. This is by far one of the worst curses of being perceived as being too good/nice/kind/available! There is little celebration of the fully available guy. Hes a great friend.. so what stands in the way of him becoming a good husband? Good men are hard to find because they are classified under “Undesirable(Physically Undesired) Friends” instead of “Men With Potential”. It is whatever/whomever a woman deems valuable that she will prioritise. Sometimes when your guy “Friends” are not attractive in your eyes you may tend to mislabel them as failed experiments but its amazing how your opinions change when another woman sees the “Husband” you friend zoned. I would like to encourage you to treat every man with respect as you don’t know what kind of husband they could be. That being said if your friend zoned guy friend is a player why is he still in the friend zone? Someone like should make you feel uncomfortable. Just because you have not fallen victim to the womaniser doesn’t mean you should stick around and console the heart breaker. Why are you as a good woman giving respect and adding value to a man who by his actions is proving why he cannot be trusted!? The day untrustworthy men lose the respect they get from “good women” is the day we will see the emergence of all the good men who are hidden in the Friendzone.